We’re always hearing that we could be having better s3x, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. But how often do we actually hear the gritty details of how we might actually achieve those things? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a s3x therapist, to help us out with the specifics. This week’s topic: How to masturbate, because knowing several ways to get yourself off is something everybody should have in their skill set.
If you have doubts and do not know where to start, we will explain how to masturbate for the first time and enjoy it.
1.First Thing It’s Completely Natural
Masturbation is completely natural. It is not harmful or hurtful in any way. You are not violating any moral or ethical rule, nor is there any problem with exploring your body and seeking to please yourself.
2.Choose Quite Place
Choose a quiet place. It is very important to be relaxed when masturbating. Concentrate on the sensations you are experiencing without worrying. A good place is your room or your bathroom, at a time of day when you know that no one can interrupt you.
Before masturbating, it is fundamental that you are excited or you have a desire to explore and play with your body. You can think of images that excite you, relive a specific event or think of a person that stimulates your desire.
4. It’s a helpful way to learn about your body.
You can learn about your body before you ever have s3x with a partner and then, down the line, you can show a partner what you like.
5.Make The Time To Practice
Learning how to masturbate is like learning any other skill.Most women’s lives are pretty busy, so I usually tell my clients to schedule in time to practice masturbating. Try to carve out 20-30 minutes twice a week.
6.Find Your Favorites
Try out all of the aforementioned techniques, and take notes on what you liked and didn’t like about each of them.
7.You don’t have to just lie on your back.
Wilde recommends lifting your legs as high as possible.To help you reach the internal parts of your clit0ris, or turning on your stomach and seeing if that feels good to you.
8.Don’t Be Scared of Lube
if you’re someone who doesn’t normally need lube, it can still be extra fun to play with it.